How our thoughts and feelings affect the course of psychotherapy

What sensations and experiences do you have immediately before the psychotherapy session, during and after it? Psychotherapist Richard Zvolinski calls this whole complex bouquet of thoughts and feelings with a session of internal therapy. He is sure: thanks to her

, a tremendous amount of energy arises in us, although we do not always feel it.

Before the visit to the therapist, strong emotions, both positive and negative, can wait for us, we can wait for the upcoming session with anxiety or impatience. It also happens that we relate to therapy with apathy. If we exclude the incompatibility of the therapist and his incompatibility with us, anger or fear is often hidden behind apathy. We are scared to admit problems and look at ourselves from the side. We can unknowingly suppress these unpleasant experiences, convincing ourselves that therapy is indifferent to us.

If you experience apathy before the session, strong fear, anger or confusion, it is important to discuss these experiences in the course of therapeutic work. Even if you don’t talk about them directly, a good therapist himself recognizes your discomfort. He will pay attention to non-verbal signals showing that something bothers you. The therapist must be able to notice changes in your condition – this is his work.

If he did not notice this, tell him how you feel. A psychotherapist will help you cope with these problems. One of the techniques is a discussion of therapy itself and your relationship. The psychotherapist can say: “I feel some kind of tension between us. There is something in our relationship that you would like to discuss?”Or:” Perhaps I missed something important that I should pay attention to?”Or:” In my opinion, you are unhappy with me. We can talk about it?”

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